Friday, April 6, 2012

Family Lawyer Help: Steps To Take When Divorcing

By Jack Wogan


One of the most cheerful moments in a person's life, if not the happiest, is one's wedding. As a consequence, the thought of divorcing is no doubt one of the last thoughts that could cross one's mind that day.

However, one's matrimony is not always the paradise that he or she has dreamt of and, unfortunately, everything can become a nightmare. Consequently, nobody wants to be implicated in such a marriage and then a divorce is no longer out of the question. There are a lot of causes why people get divorced in the first place. The most frequent ones are the failure to communicate and adultery. Then there are the other most regular reasons, such as irreconcilable differences, sexual incompatibility, physical abuse, desertion, financial problems, drug dependence, imprisonment, etc.

Having children can make the decision to get a divorce more complicated. That is why both spouses may be willing to try everything that will make things better between them. You want to try mediation, therapy or couple counseling. But none of these work. Nonetheless, you decide to stay together because of your children. Well, this solution may not be the most suitable because both you and your children will be trapped in an awkward situation, a resentful matrimony, which will most probably affect you both emotionally and psychologically.

You are determined to go on with your divorce, no matter what, even if you are aware of the fact that it will be traumatizing. As a consequence, you need to know the steps that you have to follow. A divorce can turn out to take considerable time and to be financially and emotionally consuming. Therefore, the first step is to be certain that this is what you want in fact.

Secondly, you have to search for a skilled family attorney who will be able to provide all the help that you need. You divorce can become messy and you will need help with certain issues, such as the custody of your children, the visiting rights, the division of the marital property, etc. Therefore, it is better if you are not alone (even if this means more money and time).

After that, you ought to collect all the necessary documentation that your lawyer will need. He or she will ask you for many details, personal information (like full names, address, the date of your marriage, etc.) and financial information, such as income, bank statements, assets and liabilities of spouses, loan papers, etc.

Afterward, the fourth step would be to attempt reaching a settlement with your husband or wife. It is advisable to try and work things out in a separation agreement which will include sensitive issues such as child custody, visitation rights and the division of the marital estate, etc. if such a settlement fails to be reached, you will go to court and appear in front of a judge who will decide matters in your divorce. Hence, a trial ought to be your last option.

The final step is to sign the divorce papers which will make the divorce official. You are divorced now and can start all over again!




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